When was the last, that you complained about yourself?
When was the last, that you did or buy something to awe someone else? When was the last, that you accomplished something and was looking for others approvals? When was
the last, that you wanted to do something, but you didn’t fear about not getting accepted by others? On the off chance that I need to figure for your answers, I bet most of yours would be ’Not so long ago’ or ‘Recently’. Be that as it may, what I truly need to know is - WHY?
Why do you think that you need to lose weight or get a six pack to fit into the definition of a perfect body defined by society? Can’t you love the body you want to have?
Why do you think that you have to get hitched at 25 because society says so? Can’t you do that when you are ready even when you are 30 or when you find someone you actually love even when you’re 22?
Why do you think that you need to buy an expensive dress to go out with the guy you’re crushing over? Can’t you dress up for a change because you like to or apply makeup because you love it and not for someone else’s approval of your beauty? Why do you think that you need to buy BMW to impress some girl, who doesn’t even deserve that attention of yours? Can’t you just buy it because you work your ass off to earn that kind of money?
Why can’t I not wax my legs and still feel perfect about the body and still love it like all other times? Why can’t accept that it’s okay to not have an extra hour to do so when I was too busy focusing on my studies and career in this month? Why can’t I be okay with it as a woman how men are comfortable having normal human body hair and wearing shorts as the same time or not having a six-pack and still roaming around without a shirt on the beach?
No, don't misunderstand me. I am not saying that you should not care what your parents/partner want from you or what your friends think of you. I am just saying that there comes a time when you have to just pick yourself up and get the hell over it.
There’s no use in doing things that make you unhappy, in being someone that makes you unhappy. You spent so much of your time simply focusing on what someone else wanted from you. You spent so much of your energy being exactly who they needed, and now it is time to figure out exactly what you need, exactly what you want. It’s time to pay attention to the call of your own heart, it’s time to nurture yourself. To say yes to yourself, to give yourself permission to be happy, to give yourself permission to dream out loud. You’re the only one who has to live your life, so live it however the hell you want.
Women’s Day is not about just a day for debating on Men vs Women rights. I know so many men who respect women every day and speak up for their rights more than some women I know. I know some men and even women who can’t stand other women’s success and just can’t resist the fact about some women being more powerful and smarter, and who still treat women as an object, judging them based on their appearance. I know some women, just taking advantage of being women. You are responsible to make every day a Women’s Day by allowing yourself to dream big, to work hard, and to be there for yourself because no one else is going to do that for you. Why can’t we get over this Men vs Women, and see the bigger picture of the world? A world, which doesn’t classify people based on gender, but simply on their talents, intelligence, characters, and hard work. A world, where women support and encourage each other and make each other more powerful. It has to start from somewhere, right? Why can’t we be that start in that direction rather than waiting for someone else to start the change?
This women’s day, let's promise ourselves to be more, to do more, try to achieve more, be comfortable with ourselves more and try to become much more than just appearance.